You’re a Dumbass! – not really you, more me.

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Well, not really but kinda.  And by kinda I mean most of the time.  But it’s not really anger that I am talking about.  It s more of a damn insatiable irritability.  Always there and just one little step away from full-blown anger.  Picture the times that Dr. Bruce Banner was starting to enter the morph into th Hulk but was fighting against it.  That moment…..  That’s the moment that I am constantly in.

Now let that sink in for a second.  Can you imagine spending your entire day on the verge of getting angry?  Coupled with always trying to mask just how crappy you feel so that you don’t have people worrying about you all the time.  I will say that it is a huge drain on your energy and taxes everything.  It is a constant power struggle within your head trying to suppress the irritability.  And for the record, I would say that I am about 75% successful in controlling it.  That means that at least 25% of the time, I struggle to keep things under wraps.

I am not proud of that little self calculated stat but it is my reality.  And no, it doesn’t mean I go around kicking animals, stealing candy from little kids and picking random fights with strangers 25% of my day.  In fact, I can honestly say that I have never kicked and animal nor have I stolen candy from a kid.  But I have to plea stupid on the latter but will put a caveat that it is never a good idea to cut off a guy with PTSD and proceed to give him the finger as he passes you in line at the intersection.  The fake bully facade tends to push a shit load of triggers that could potential cause said PTSD person to stop the car, open the door and express their opinion in a very graphic and profanity laced language.  (On a side note, I believe that the fake bully had to change his underwear after his behaviour was called out by a simple guy at an interscetion – nothing physical  occurred.)

I am proud of what happened?  Nope.  To tell you the truth, I was utterly ashamed of myself for allowing myself to get so swept up in the moment.  It was the expression on an elder female on the sidewalk that snapped me back to reality as the guy quickly drove away.  Dr Banner wasn’t able to keep the Hulk from showing up on that one and it scared me.  It was like I was watching it unfold from afar and I couldn’t hit pause.  But I am happy to report that this was the only time and I promise it will be the only time that things got this extreme.  It made me take stock of my situation and the handling of it.

Usually, redmy irritability comes out in snapping at those around me, having a low tolerance for “stupid” and just plain being a grumpy old man.  It is one of my bigger battles that I need to get a handle on and gain a greater control over.  I have sought out an example or a role model to try to work towards.  Yep, that’s right – Red Foreman is my new role model.  Think about for a second.  The guy never lost his cool but was sure to express himself and let people know where they stood with him.  What / who could be a better role model for someone struggling to maintain their cool and express themselves when things aren’t going good?  Not to mention that my hair line is eerily familiar and I applauded his choice in shirts.

In all seriousness though, my challenge is to keep my cool even when things aren’t going good.  Part of that continues to be my mindfulness exercises I do everyday, which I definitely notice a difference with.  The other challenge is to openly express myself instead of suppressing and keeping things in.  That approached apparently didn’t work for me so maybe if I start to voice, in an appropriate manner, that I am bothered by something, I’ll start gaining more control.  Because in the end, I would much rather go around calling people Dumbass then spending my time trying to keep the Hulk at bay.

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